Berkeley my wife for thirty years

At the height of my career at IBM, I requested to be a part of the IBM Faculty Loan Program.  The Faculty Loan program was one of the ways IBM contributed to the community. IBM would pay their employee's full salary and lend then to universities around the United States where they would work on projects that made a difference to the world. I was sent to New York City to work at Columbia University for two years on a project called the Comprehensive Math and Science Program (CMSP). This experience changed my life forever but almost destroyed my career.   I will discuss the career portion of this story later. Now, I will talk about one significant aspect of the life changing events that followed and then later flush out the full story. 

IBM's policy required that IBM provided me an apartment in New York City because my commute from Rockland County to Columbia University would be much longer than my usual commute to IBM near Suffern, New York.  This apartment was my first bonanza. I would keep my apartment in Rockland County, get all expenses paid apartment on Park Ave next to Grand Central Station in New York City, my full salary, and addition money to cover the higher New York costs. You would say, "Wow! Baron, you lucked out." I would answer, "Yes.  You are correct but this is nothing compared to the other riches which came into my life." I met the ONE. You know the One. Yes. That one. The one who when she walks into the room, your heart skips a beat. The One, who you can't take you eyes off. The One who you will drive miles to see for a few minutes.    Now you get it.  The biggest reward of this move was a thirty-year marriage and three beautiful kids.

I was with a real estate agent on an elevator in the West Village when I saw her for the first time. I was standing on one side of the elevator with the agent in front of me. He was trying to sell me on the apartment we had just seen in the building. Behind him was this gorgeous, long legged, natural blonde in jeans and cowboy boots. My eyes left the agent to enjoy this extraordinary sample of feminine beauty behind him. To my surprise, I noticed that she was trying to tell me something.  She could hear what the realtor was saying and would give me a thumbs up or thumbs down based on her perception of the truth value of his comments. She did this two or three times as the elevator descended two floors.  My mouth opened on its own and the words, "Are you European?" rolled out. "No," she answered.  "I am from Arkansas." The elevator had arrived at the ground floor with no further comment, and we walked purposefully out of the building.

We turned left to return to the Central Village, and she turned left too. As we walked the long city block, I would look back a couple of times, and she would receive my glance with a smile. We reached the end of the block, and we were about to turn right when I got the bright idea to get her telephone number. I looked at the agent and said, "Wait a minute, I want to get this girl's phone number."  He protested.  "I don't have time for you to be picking up girls on the street!" I ignored him and ran to her. When I reached her, I realized I was wearing my conservative IBM blue suit and tie. She was wearing her West Village artist cool. This relationship would never work. But I asked for her number, just the same,  and she gave it to me. Wow!  My success impressed the agent. He was no longer in a rush. He now wanted my coaching on how to pick up beautiful women on the street. 

I was ecstatic, but my euphoria did not last long because the first three times I called, she did not answer the phone. Maybe, this was not her number, and she gave it to me to get out of an embarrassing situation. However, I called one more time. She answered the phone.  I was jumping for joy in my skin, but I spoke as calmly as I could. "Hello.  I am the guy who asked for your number on the street last week."  We had exchange names, and so I was still the man on the street. She hardly remembered me and said that she was busy and had no time for dating. Now, my next words were pure genius. I said, "You work at nights, and you must have dinner in the evenings when you work."  She agreed. I continued, "Tell me when and where you typically go to eat, and I will show up and sit next to you."  She giggled and told me when and where we could meet.

She would have dinner in the early evening near the same building where we met. To seize this opportunity, I had leave work early, drive around 40 miles from Suffern, New York in peak traffic to the West Village. Find a parking spot and show up dressed immaculately. When I walked into the bar, she was sitting there with that now familiar smile. I don't know how I would have felt if she was not there. But, the thought did not cross my mind. She was happy to see me but not overwhelmed. We had a drink and talked then left the bar to eat some catfish at a nearby restaurant. The conversation continued but still no breakthrough. Not until we left the restaurant to sit on the curb facing the West Side Highway did the magic happen. I asked her casually when was her birthday and she answered, August 6th and I responded, "Wow! That's my birthday too."  We looked at each other in disbelief, and I could see her heart open to me and she agreed to our first date.